Ever played the negative version of ‘What ifs’?
Imagine a situation where you need to take action.
Unsure: you hesitate, or procrastinate while you second-guess an outcome from a position of fear.
Typically though, this kind of ‘What if’ thinking presupposes a negative outcome and/or reaction.
Like as not, you may even throw in some catastrophizing for good measure: ‘But what if the plan fails, everyone will think I’m stupid.’
(Really? Even those who do not know you?)
While you may like the sensation of control: life and people are outside your control.
So, be kind to yourself.
Realize words such as ‘failure’, ‘hopeless’, and ‘loser’ can negatively affect emotional well-being and self-esteem.
Realize words heavily laced with negativity are only too keen to rob you of the confidence you need to take action.
So, the next time you are tempted to play a darker shade of ‘What ifs’, consider introducing some sense of balance to your perspective.
- What is the worst thing that can happen?
- What is the best possible outcome?
- What is the most likely outcome?
By broadening your view, you are also expanding the scope with which to find a realistic strategy that you are willing to action.
Copyright uncapIdeas 2015 (this revised version copyright 2017)