So Not True!

Never mind me being a female: I confess to being unable to multitask.

I most definitely do not like to start something, stop, start something else, stop, rush onto yet another activity, stop; then, go back to original activity all the while trying to remember where I left off and what needs to be done next.

Urghhh!!!!

Mind you, my inability to multitask may be due to my upbringing.

I can still hear my parents scolding me as a child: ‘If you are going to do something; do it well, or don’t bother doing it at all!’

Thankfully, with the passing of time, I have outgrown some of my impatience to realize that some tasks are worth my complete and undivided attention; especially, when I enjoy that sense of accomplishment of a job well done.

And thankfully, due to recent research, I no longer experience feelings of stress and anxiety at my inability (or enthusiasm) to multitask.

Recent research which in fact reveals that multitasking is a myth.

‘Multitasking, when it comes to paying attention, is a myth.
 The brain naturally focuses on concepts sequentially, one at a time.’

Brain Rules
Medina, J.
(2014) Pear Press

In other words: the brain processes ideas and activities listed on a ‘to do’ list one sequential step at a time.

So, if you are a fan of the concept of multitasking, for the sake of your brain’s well-being: please consider the benefits of giving your brain the time it needs to do what it does naturally.

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But What If…?

Work with the fear to create a plan you are willing to action.

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Ever played the negative version of ‘What ifs’?

Imagine a situation where you need to take action.

Unsure: you hesitate, or procrastinate while you second-guess an outcome from a position of fear.

Typically though, this kind of ‘What if’ thinking presupposes a negative outcome and/or reaction.

Like as not, you may even throw in some catastrophizing for good measure: ‘But what if the plan fails, everyone will think I’m stupid.’

(Really? Even those who do not know you?)

While you may like the sensation of control: life and people are outside your control.

So, be kind to yourself.

Realize words such as ‘failure’, ‘hopeless’, and ‘loser’ can negatively affect emotional well-being and self-esteem.

Realize words heavily laced with negativity are only too keen to rob you of the confidence you need to take action.

So, the next time you are tempted to play a darker shade of ‘What ifs’, consider…

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Enough Already!

Faster, smarter, wealthier, and trendier: every day and in every way.

Yet again I am reading another article on how people like me can be ‘superhuman’.

What’s wrong with me being just a human?

True: I have my idiosyncratic ways, but every day and in every way, I try my best to be my best.

Sometimes I succeed; at other times, not so much.

But the thought that I must be ‘superhuman’ before I fulfil someone’s unrealistic expectations of perfection is more pressure than I am willing to bear.

Recently, I also read an article about children with mental health challenges:

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Kindness

Friendliness, generosity, and being considerate is not just for the benefit of other folk.

Extending the spirit of kindness to yourself can work wonders for your self-esteem and confidence.

Let not your inner critical voice stop you from thinking friendly thoughts about who you are and what you do.

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